It’s been said that nobody is perfect and everybody makes mistakes. It’s how you assume accountability, handle, and rise above those mistakes that matters most. However, there will be people who struggle to even admit to themselves and face their mistakes. This is especially true to people who are addicted to drugs and alcohol. They use these substances to mask not only their problems but their shortcomings, and then deny the problems as they get worse or become ignored.
For people who are entering recovery, admitting to their mistakes is an important step for them to evolve and change their path, to turn their downward spiral into an upward battle to health, happiness, and a better life for them and their families.
This is where emotional sobriety comes in.
Emotional sobriety is the ability for people to deal with their feelings positively, to allow themselves to feel those feelings, even the worst and most devastating ones, yet still be in control of themselves: their thoughts, actions, priorities, and motivations.
A person is emotionally sober if:
- they can live in the moment, whether good or bad
- they have meaningful and deep relationships
- they do not have extreme moods or behaviors
- they do not need alcohol or drugs to number their feelings
- they can ride out the turbulent ups and downs of life
- they can control or moderate their own behaviors and attitudes
- they can successfully deal with stress
- they have a positive outlook in life
- they have hope and plans for the future
- they have an attitude of gratitude
Why is emotional sobriety important in recovery?
Being physically sober is not enough in recovery. Recovering addicts need to have mental peace and fortitude as well. They need to develop emotional sobriety, which we help them learn, relearn, or discover at Bridges of Hope. Without emotional sobriety, they will be prone to relapse, and may completely go back to their old ways of compulsion and addiction.
The benefits of emotional sobriety in recovery are:
- end of self-pity
- strength and resilience to handle any situation
- positive outlook and disposition
- letting go of regrets
- looking forward and planning for the future
- no more fear of people, places, things, and situations
- financial security
- being more responsible
- end of self-absorption and self-centeredness
- empathy towards other people
- more tranquil life
Not reaching emotional sobriety in recovery can open a can of worms that will later on draw back the recovering addict to his vices and compulsion. If you have a hard time with your own recovery, have relapsed, or thinking about going into a rehab, then we’re here to help.