Do you love him so much that you are willing to get him into rehab?
When you have a partner, spouse, family member or friend who is suffering from substance dependence or addiction, we often find ourselves wanting to keep them from harm and protect them even from themselves. We try to keep them clean and healthy, buy them medicine when they get sick, cover up their unpaid bills, support them when they lose their jobs, and help them if they get into any legal trouble.
When you’re pregnant, you’re not just eating for two. You’re drinking, breathing, and living for two. Therefore, it is very important to carefully consider the things that you give your body and eventually your baby. So when you eat junk, your baby eats junk too. When you smoke or drink, your baby receives traces of nicotine and alcohol too. And when you take illegal drugs, your baby gets affected as well.
Why do people become so addicted? Don’t they have some self-control?
For people who have no addiction, or are not living with anyone who is struggling with addiction, it is different to understand what drives people from using to becoming seemingly irreversibly addicted to substances or behaviors.
Meet John. He listens to the dial tone for a while after his boss hung up the phone on the other line. His boss just told him he cannot have the raise he was expecting because the company just suffered a huge loss. As John put down his phone and then drives off the parking lot to go home, he felt the familiar, almost overwhelming urge to go and smoke some meth.
Why is this?
Addiction can come between couples and break them apart–often in irreparable ways. Addiction can push very far apart people who once loved each other so deeply, to the point that they do not recognize each other anymore: one only sees the drug, while the other only sees the addiction.
It’s not easy living with someone with addiction. However, talking about this to someone who hasn’t gone through the ordeal can be hard as well. There is always that social stigma and misunderstanding about drug addiction, how it develops, how it can be treated, and the family’s role in all this.
Below are 24 things that people may not understand about those who have family members or loved ones living with an addict.
1. Watching someone you love go through a life engulfed by addiction is extremely hard.
Addiction causes a lot of damage not only in the life of the person who is addicted, but to the people around them as well. This can be said specifically to the addict’s family and closest friends, the people who care about them the most.
Loving someone who is struggling with alcoholism, excessive drinking, substance abuse, or any form of addiction can be hard to deal with. There are many other problems that come with this that may affect them–and you.
So if you care for your significant other or family member, consider these things:
Having someone dear to you, like a partner or a family member, who is in drug or alcohol rehab most often means that you’re facing a lot of struggles. These struggles are further exacerbated by questions, doubts, and misconceptions on how professional rehabilitation facilities work.
To help you gain some perspective and allay your fears, here are a few of the things you should know about drug and alcohol rehabilitation for your loved one.
Living with an addict can be confusing, lonely, and frustrating. This is because addicts have learned to manipulate people like friends and family so that they can continue their lifestyle and habit. In fact, their manipulations skills can leave you in awe as they can turn the needs and wants of other people to their advantage, and no amount of reasoning can beat them.
Learning how addicts to this can help concerned family members and friends like you to stop being lured into the manipulation game and help get your loved one the help that they need.