bridges of hope
Many people who enter the doors of rehabilitation often find themselves also struggling with their spirituality. Many struggle with the idea of spirituality or the belief in a higher power because they may not identify themselves as religious, or have now rejected religion.
Why do people become so addicted? Don’t they have some self-control?
For people who have no addiction, or are not living with anyone who is struggling with addiction, it is different to understand what drives people from using to becoming seemingly irreversibly addicted to substances or behaviors.
Meet John. He listens to the dial tone for a while after his boss hung up the phone on the other line. His boss just told him he cannot have the raise he was expecting because the company just suffered a huge loss. As John put down his phone and then drives off the parking lot to go home, he felt the familiar, almost overwhelming urge to go and smoke some meth.
Why is this?
“It’s my problem! Let me handle it on my own!” “Don’t interfere with my life, I am not interfering with yours.” “Mind your own business!”
These may just be some of the things your loved ones or friends with drug or alcohol addiction may have told you. When you express your concern, fear, sadness, and frustration to them, they would retaliate harshly that their problem doesn’t affect you so you don’t have to worry about them.
But we all know they’re completely wrong.
It’s been said that nobody is perfect and everybody makes mistakes. It’s how you assume accountability, handle, and rise above those mistakes that matters most. However, there will be people who struggle to even admit to themselves and face their mistakes. This is especially true to people who are addicted to drugs and alcohol. They use these substances to mask not only their problems but their shortcomings, and then deny the problems as they get worse or become ignored.
Why is it that some people are able to go for many years with their cocaine and heroine addiction and then overcome them after arduous treatment? Why is it that some people are merely addicted to gambling but find it hard to recover? Why is it that some people are able to transcend and rise above their addictions, while others just can’t no matter how hard they try?
What is it that people really need to escape their addiction and achieve sustained recovery and sobriety? How can we really be free from our addictions?
Many people will often get to the point when they notice that they may be using too much, causing some problems, getting out of hand, or getting sick. They may start to think that they may really be having a substance abuse problem and even decide to do what it takes to quit.
Everyone likes a nice person. However, if you’re too focused on pleasing other people, then it can be a problem.
People pleasing can be a liability especially if you are in recovery. This attitude can hold you back from ever being sober and progressing in recovery, and you may less likely find the happiness that you deserve. So if you want to stay and progress in the road to recovery, you should concentrate on your priorities, instead of focusing on getting other people’s approval.
People will of course choose pleasure over pain. Evolution and human nature dictate it. In fact, the advances of civilizations and the human race itself throughout history have revolved around this search for pleasure and avoidance of pain.