Bridges of Hope Blog
Many people who enter the doors of rehabilitation often find themselves also struggling with their spirituality. Many struggle with the idea of spirituality or the belief in a higher power because they may not identify themselves as religious, or have now rejected religion.
Why do people become so addicted? Don’t they have some self-control?
For people who have no addiction, or are not living with anyone who is struggling with addiction, it is different to understand what drives people from using to becoming seemingly irreversibly addicted to substances or behaviors.
Meet John. He listens to the dial tone for a while after his boss hung up the phone on the other line. His boss just told him he cannot have the raise he was expecting because the company just suffered a huge loss. As John put down his phone and then drives off the parking lot to go home, he felt the familiar, almost overwhelming urge to go and smoke some meth.
Why is this?
It’s been said that nobody is perfect and everybody makes mistakes. It’s how you assume accountability, handle, and rise above those mistakes that matters most. However, there will be people who struggle to even admit to themselves and face their mistakes. This is especially true to people who are addicted to drugs and alcohol. They use these substances to mask not only their problems but their shortcomings, and then deny the problems as they get worse or become ignored.
Many people will often get to the point when they notice that they may be using too much, causing some problems, getting out of hand, or getting sick. They may start to think that they may really be having a substance abuse problem and even decide to do what it takes to quit.
Everyone likes a nice person. However, if you’re too focused on pleasing other people, then it can be a problem.
People pleasing can be a liability especially if you are in recovery. This attitude can hold you back from ever being sober and progressing in recovery, and you may less likely find the happiness that you deserve. So if you want to stay and progress in the road to recovery, you should concentrate on your priorities, instead of focusing on getting other people’s approval.
Loving someone who is struggling with alcoholism, excessive drinking, substance abuse, or any form of addiction can be hard to deal with. There are many other problems that come with this that may affect them–and you.
So if you care for your significant other or family member, consider these things:
People will of course choose pleasure over pain. Evolution and human nature dictate it. In fact, the advances of civilizations and the human race itself throughout history have revolved around this search for pleasure and avoidance of pain.
Happiness doesn’t mean a beautiful house, a luxury vacation, plenty of friends, adulation, and a grand life. Happiness can be found in the quiet hours of the night, in a small cabin, with a loved one, or with nothing but just the simplest things in life. Happiness is what you make of life, whatever life brings.
A person who has found happiness no matter what his circumstances are has learned how to be happy with the small stuff, or even with nothing at all. It’s all in the state of mind. And these pointers on how to create your own happiness can help you take on problems and cope with them positively and constructively, instead of resorting to destructive behavior. Read the rest of this entry »