the family of an addict
Do you love him so much that you are willing to get him into rehab?
When you have a partner, spouse, family member or friend who is suffering from substance dependence or addiction, we often find ourselves wanting to keep them from harm and protect them even from themselves. We try to keep them clean and healthy, buy them medicine when they get sick, cover up their unpaid bills, support them when they lose their jobs, and help them if they get into any legal trouble.
Addiction is a lonely disease.
When at first you have a happy family and a great relationship and social life, once addiction hits, things can change for the worst dramatically. Addiction isolates you to your family and friends, the people who love you, and then ultimately kill you. This is the reality for many addicts, unless they seek help and decide to stay sober.
Addiction can come between couples and break them apart–often in irreparable ways. Addiction can push very far apart people who once loved each other so deeply, to the point that they do not recognize each other anymore: one only sees the drug, while the other only sees the addiction.
Addiction causes a lot of damage not only in the life of the person who is addicted, but to the people around them as well. This can be said specifically to the addict’s family and closest friends, the people who care about them the most.
Loving someone who is struggling with alcoholism, excessive drinking, substance abuse, or any form of addiction can be hard to deal with. There are many other problems that come with this that may affect them–and you.
So if you care for your significant other or family member, consider these things:
Maybe you have tried many times. To stop. Many, many times. You have asked your spouse to stop you from getting out of the house, or you’ve tried to hint to your family your problem. You think that your love for your partner, your family, your career or your education is motivation enough to stop using.
Having someone dear to you, like a partner or a family member, who is in drug or alcohol rehab most often means that you’re facing a lot of struggles. These struggles are further exacerbated by questions, doubts, and misconceptions on how professional rehabilitation facilities work.
To help you gain some perspective and allay your fears, here are a few of the things you should know about drug and alcohol rehabilitation for your loved one.
It hurts so bad to think I cannot save him, protect him, keep him out of harm’s way, shield him from pain. What good are fathers if not for these things? — Thomas Lynch regarding his son’s drug addiction
The many effects of addiction in the family show that holidays can be a very difficult and sad time for people who have loved ones or family members who struggle with addiction. And Father’s Day is no exception. Family-focused holidays such as this bring back many memories that have made significant impacts on the lives of every family member.